Valentine's Day and InfertilityValentine’s Day will soon be here. It’s the day of love and romance. If you and your partner are struggling with infertility, romance may seem nearly impossible to even think about.

The pressure to make Valentine’s Day romantic can feel daunting, especially if you are in the midst of treatment and getting pregnant is all you can think about. If you are  taking fertility medications, you could also be feeling bloated, cranky or hot flashing, not exactly things that put you “in the mood.”

However, no matter where you are in your infertility journey, there certainly are ways to enjoy Valentine’s Day and maybe even rekindle a little passion in the process. Valentine’s Day is a celebration of relationships. Do something special together and have fun! Focus on the things you love about your partner.

If you want to go out, go somewhere that is relatively free of children. This is actually pretty easy on Valentine’s Day because many couples leave their children at home with a sitter in this day. Try something different, maybe a new restaurant, new theater, ice skating, a day at the spa. If you stay in and want to be romantic, don’t pressure yourself. Cook a dinner together, plan to watch a good movie, read a book together.

Most of all, count your Blessings together. You are both going through the same struggle and you have each other. Concentrate on what you have at the moment. The rest will come in time.

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